There is nothing worse than looking back at a situation and realizing all the time you spent stressing could’ve been avoided by just plainly ‘not giving two sh*ts’, if you will. Meaning that gray hair and new wrinkle could’ve also been avoided… Below are a few situations you can feel free to learn to just ‘let go’ and not stress over:
YOU SHOULD CARE: A colleague takes credit for your work. “GAF about your reputation,” says Knight. Psychiatrist Michael Bennett, M.D., and Sarah Bennett, coauthors of F*ck Feelings, agree: “Gather documentation, then calmly spell out the sitch to your boss.”
SAVE YOUR CARE: Your Debbie Downer colleague mocked your idea in a meeting. “Don’t get caught in a likability vortex,” says Knight. Instead, focus on your manager’s opinion. “If you’re a good employee, your boss will see right through your coworker’s comments.”
MISPLACED YOUR CARE: You’re not getting enough face time with the boss. So what? Sure, it’s important that the big cheese knows who you are, but quantity ain’t got nothin’ on quality. Kicking butt at your job is a better way to get noticed than kissing it.
YOU SHOULD CARE: You get a call from the teacher that your child was teasing her classmate. “This isn’t about other adults thinking badly of you because of your kid’s behavior,” says Knight. “It’s about stopping little Susie from growing up to be a bully.”
SAVE YOUR CARE: The breastfeeding police have come for you. Consider and choose the best course for your family. Then don’t sweat it. “Having your kid on the teat—or not—isn’t going to guarantee him the presidency or turn him into a serial killer,” says Knight.
MISPLACED YOUR CARE: Junior needs a zillion extracurriculars (archery! Mandarin lessons!) to get into a good college. Nope. He needs a balance of activities, family time, and downtime to be well rounded, college-bound or not.
THE DAILY GRIND
YOU SHOULD CARE: Your morning commute is deadly. It’s okay for that to be a deal breaker. When Knight’s Brooklyn-to-Manhattan subway slog became brutal, she went freelance to avoid it. Finding something closer (or working remotely) may be your fix.
SAVE YOUR CARE: All your friends are joining the latest $40-a-pop boutique fitness class, but it seems too expensive and trendy for you. Repeat after us: “Nah, I’m good.” If an old-school step class gets you to move your ass, who cares if some consider it passe?
MISPLACED YOUR CARE: You feel guilty about not dusting. Ever. Lamenting your (lack of) housekeeping skills won’t get your house any cleaner. “Figure out what you can do,” says Knight. Delegate the task to your roommate or kid? Hire a cleaning service every other week?