It’s certainly true that we are our own worst critic… and with that comes negative thoughts about ourselves, diminishing our self confidence one negative depiction at a time. It doesn’t take long for all those negative thoughts to wear and tear on your confidence and slowly drag you down, preventing you from taking advantage of opportunities for success. Read the traits below to check and see if you need to make any self adjustments:
You don’t believe in yourself.
Self-talk is a strong force, whether it’s positive or negative. If you tell yourself “I’m not ready for that promotion” or “I could never be that disciplined” or “I don’t have the aptitude to be a boss” if you routinely talk yourself out of your aspirations you will not reach your potential.
You compare yourself with others.
When you hold the full, complex reality of your life up against the visible surface of someone else’s, it’s easy to come away feeling like less. If you want to compare yourself with someone else, look at those who have less and are struggling — then be grateful for all your advantages and achievements and commit yourself to sharing your blessings.
You surround yourself with negativity.
You don’t have to look very hard to find people with issues — there’s always someone ready to cut down someone else’s success or dwell on the unfairness of a situation or workplace. Often what these people are masking is their own fear of failure, but allowing yourself to be exposed to their negativity will have a bad influence on you. Recognize the positive people in your life and choose your relationships carefully.
You indulge in pessimism.
If you often catch yourself thinking “I don’t have a chance” or “This will never work out,” you need to shout down that voice before it creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. Focus on what you can do instead of worrying about the outcomes you can’t control.
You don’t let yourself speak up.
When you quiet your own voice, when you stop yourself from saying what you want to do or asking for what you need, your silence can be mistaken for ignorance or apathy — by others and even by yourself. Even if you feel overpowered, it’s important to say what’s on your mind.