Each and every day brings new situations… some positive and unfortunately some negative. What determines the reputation of our character is how we handle these situations. We can either gracefully let go and move on from the negative experiences or dwell on them… Below are 4 actions to help you gracefully let go:
This is actually not related to blogging or publishing at all. Often a difficult relationship is the last thing we should write about and then publish on — or, at least, we need to get some space so that we’re making sure it’s helpful and not just emotional vomit purged out into the world without purpose. Regardless, journaling and writing about an event we’re having trouble letting go of has definitely helped me figure out why exactly I’m so hurt and crippled — and then I’m more able to care for my emotions without that aforementioned wallowing.
Talk About it.
There’s a difference between talking a wound into the ground and dwelling on it–and treating our spouse like an unpaid therapist — and talking about a feeling in order to get in touch with it and then leave it in the past. (And, by all means, do see a licensed therapist if need be.)
I practiced yoga the other day after feeling hung up on a conversation. This combination of deep, steady, rhythmic breathing, with moving and stretching and yawning my body open — while also strengthening — reminds me that I’m supple and pliable. It’s reinvigorating to be reminded of how capable I am of bending, and how strong I am when I was initially feeling weak.
While I might not leave my yoga mat a perfectly different human being than I was when I hopped on, I am absolutely better equipped to deal with life, and to move forward one breath at a time.
Spending time with those I love.
And, at the end of the day, we deal with people in our lives outside of the people that we are able to choose, and who we enjoy spending time with. Taking one sincere look at my children, and smiling into their eyes, and holding them, and cuddling my husband, and laughing with him over a silly movie after the kids have gone to bed — these types of simple, positive experiences are always reminders of who and what matter in my life.